Make him chase you

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For years, I spent more time than I care to admit chasing after men, trying to convince the man du jour that he really did like me. It felt terrible.

Make him chase you

With each rejection, I felt worse and worse about myself and my love life. Little did I know a critical part of dating and finding a relationship is figuring out how to make him chase you instead. The devastating heartbreak continued until I learned a few things about the way guys are simply hardwired differently than we are. People get angry when I say that men are hunters who like the chase. And I understand why. Men always swear up and down that, if a woman they were attracted to showed interest, they would love it.

Unfortunately, women and men have very different definitions of "showing interest. As Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger says"the penis does the picking. You might have wonderful conversations that last hours. You might have sex. You might see "real potential" in him and fall head over heels.

Make him chase you

Achievement in relationships resides in the masculine realm of men. Making a woman happy is an achievement. So is proposing and "bringing home the bacon. In the smallest way possible, they've won at something. In most parts of our modern lives, the hot pursuit strategy works pretty darn well. Want that job? Get that job or forge your own path. Want that house?

Save up and buy it for yourself. Want that man? Well, now that's where it gets tricky. Namely, Herculean effort. Not only does extreme effort not work, but trying too hard is a quick way to completely sabotage things. There is no mystery.

Make him chase you

Continue with your own routine and don't exclude or skip anything that you would normally do in your daily routine just because you feel like you need to make time for him. Example: Don't skip your daily gym sesh for him or taking time to yourself for some needed self-care. Find a sliver of time for him and make it look like you were able to squeeze some time into your busy day just for him. Example: This looks like being happy, playful, flirtatious, and receptive to his advances. He must be the one to pursue more of your time and attention while you allow and enjoy that attention.

How to do it right: Don't say yes to everything. Make him fit himself into your plans and life as you maintain your own life. Whenever you are with him, make sure to do something memorable before you leave him for the day or night, so that he can't stop thinking about you. Example: When you are on a date make sure you're the last one to kiss him on your way out the door so that he can't stop thinking about the next time he can feel your lips on his. How to do it right: Don't do something over the top like being intimate with him before you're ready or giving him what he wants.

Leave some things to the imagination and don't let him lead you to do something you're not comfortable with. If he's not meant for you or doesn't want to get to know you then he won't actively chase you. Example: Try manifesting to the universe that the right man will come for you and that you are worthy. If this man thinks you're worth the chase he will come after you and pursue you.

How to do it right: Don't try all the tricks in the book to make him chase you. There's not so much you can do spiritually to force someone to go after you. It'll happen with time. Stop trying to prove your worth or explain why you would be good together.

He needs to figure that out on his own and if he's really interested he'll be the one asking all or just the same amount of questions you ask him. Example: When he asks what you typically do on dates, don't mention your dating rules or explain why the two of you would be a good match. Instead, give him maybe a half answer to what he wants to know so that way if he really wants to know more about you he will chase you and try and understand you. How to do it right: Don't give him total nonanswers. Refusing to ask a question or skipping to a new topic might seem suspicious and weird.

Try and figure out some hobbies, activities, or games that the two of you might like even if that's starting a new show together with him on Netflix. Make him think about you the next time he wants to do that thing and he will reach out to you. Example: Plan a date around doing something together like playing games or going to a trivia night, and even if it's not a physical thing, it could be sending certain memes just to each other.

How to not take it too far: Don't actively try and text him or call him to hang out whenever you want to do a similar thing with him, or send too many memes. Let him be the one to catch on and think of you just as much as you think of him. If you nonchalantly send him a couple of flirty texts or maybe a sexy picture, he will immediately think of you and want to see you again. Example: Throw on a cute outfit and maybe a little makeup and send him a picture or a text that you felt cute today and let him respond.

How to do it right: Don't do anything too far like sending nudes or sexts because then you might turn the relationship into something more casual and maybe what you weren't looking for. This is probably the oldest trick in the book but surprisingly it works sometimes.

If you've been on a date with a guy you really like and maybe you asked him out the first time, let him take the effort to chase you next. Example: Don't text him after a date or after he sent you a message. Give him some time to realize you didn't respond and he will text you back if he wants to keep talking and getting to know you. How to do it right: Don't wait too long to text him or he might think you are ghosting him. It's best to wait for him to text back and then you can respond as usual. However, if he doesn't text back the first time, then there might not be a strong attraction there.

When you're getting to know him ask about something he's never done and plan your next date, or maybe your first date, around that. Example: Ask him what he hasn't done before or maybe something he hasn't tried before and then plan a date around that. If that's never eating sushi, then go to a sushi restaurant for dinner and experience a first with him and he will remember that experience with you in his mind. How to do it right: Don't do something that will take things Make him chase you far, like taking his virginity or something intense that's too personal.

If things turn for the worst, I'm sure you don't want to be a part of an important Make him chase you that he will remember for the long term. While it's important to know what you're looking for as you're dating, you can't expect a relationship from every guy you meet. Don't be afraid to take things casual at first and see where they go. Example: Be open about what you're looking for if and when he asks, but make a note that you're realistic about dating and don't force him to define the relationship right away.

How to do it right: If the relationship ends up being too casual don't act like you're into it and let him know that's not what you actually wanted. If he doesn't want things to be more serious then you should get out while you can so your feelings don't get hurt. I used to think that showing a man obvious interest by moving things along was confident, not needy.

When I dug deeper, I realized that the reason this behavior is deemed "needy" is that I really wanted the guy to chase me and be interested in me! If a man rejected me, it ruined my whole day. People want things that are precious and rare. Quitting the chase was like getting off the 'man drugs'. Once I kicked the habit, I found that the quality of men who pursued me increased astronomically. To make him miss you you have to let your guard down and let him take initiative. That will show you that he wants to make effort to see and talk to you because a part of him misses you.

If you're not the first to text him, then you will be on his mind when he realizes you didn't respond to him. You have to make him feel addicted to you. Elizabeth Stone is a relationship coach. If Make him chase you keep dating men who don't call or Make him chase you you feel special and loved, get a free copy of Elizabeth Stone's book, Why Men Lose Interest, and her daily series. in. YourTango Experts. Expert Blog. Photo: getty images.

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