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No one dreams about Christian long distance relationships. One of the first things we learned is that our trips to see each other can often feel a lot like vacation. We filled our visits with walks on the beach, scenic hikes, parties and great meals. Every dating relationship should have moments that feel like a vacation. Go grocery shopping and cook a meal at home rather than going out to eat. Learning to steer clear of permanent vacation mode is part of a successful, Christian, long distance relationship. The challenge of distance combined with the excitement of a new romance can often spur us to move too quickly.
This is one long-distance issue that really challenged us. We met in August, got engaged in October, and started planning a March wedding. We soon realized we were moving too fast. Looking back, we admit that was crazy quick, but in the moment it felt right. We were excited to have found each other, knew we wanted to get married and were excited to be together and married. Once we realized we were moving too quickly, we pushed back our wedding.
We are much more prepared for marriage as a couple now than we would have been a year ago. Every couple will need a different amount of time. There is value in seeking the wisdom of others in determining the right timing.
Waiting can be hard, but good things are worth the wait.
We are all tempted to hide our struggles or weaknesses in relationships, but long-distance relationships can make this temptation even stronger. One couple in a Christian long distance relationship recently told me they took time to have a hard conversation on a recent visit.
They talked about some difficult topics and responded to each other with grace. It was probably tempting to just avoid those hard conversations, but in the end the couple was stronger. Our relationships can only become strong when they are rooted in truth, vulnerability, and love. A great way to get to know someone is to bring them around people who know you well. Your community can often see things you may not. The friends and family test is an important one in any relationship. But being long-distance can make this step trickier to accomplish.
Make sure your times together includes visits with friends and family who have your permission to give you their honest feedback. Let your community speak into your relationship. Value their feedback and trust their instincts. As we get used to being together, it can be a struggle to make the same time for each other we made at first. Texts, s, voice messages, cards and gifts are not just for the early days of a relationship. Be creative about finding ways to show your feelings from a distance. Understanding their love language is a huge help here.
As I look back on our season of long-distance dating, there have been so many sweet moments. It definitely can be done well. There have some important life lessons we have learned together, even while miles apart. If God writes a Christian long distance relationship into your story, receive it with gratitude and ask Him for the grace to avoid these challenges.
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Please enter a valid password. Please create a password that has at least 8 characters consists of both letters and s is different from your e-mail address and doesn't contain the word 'believe'. I have read and agreed to the Terms of Service and the Privacy Statement. Written by Andrew Hess on April 14, Falling Into Vacation Mode One of the first things we learned is that our trips to see each other can often feel a lot like vacation.
Moving Too Fast The challenge of distance combined with the excitement of a new romance can often spur us to move too quickly. Hiding Your True Self We are all tempted to hide our struggles or weaknesses in relationships, but long-distance relationships can make this temptation even stronger. Dating In A Vacuum A great way to get to know someone is to bring them around people who know you well. Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind As we get used to being together, it can be a struggle to make the same time for each other we made at first.
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