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Those little white lies are slipping out more often than you realize: One study found that Americans, on average, tell about 11 lies per week.
Other research shows that is on the conservative side. And it gets worse: Those that did lie actually told an average of three lies during that short conversation. In surveying more than psychology graduate students currently or ly in therapy, Leslie Martin, PhD, of Wake Forest University's counseling center, found that of the 37 percent who reported lying, most did so "to protect themselves in some way — mostly to avoid shame or embarrassment, to avoid painful emotions and to avoid being judged.
Then there are the little fibs called pro-social lies which we are taught as kids are harmless. Telling grandma that you love the new sweater when you actually hate it, or telling your wife she looks great in that outfit, when you actually think she looks a little on the heavy side. The problem with these little lies — which are harmless at first — is that they tend to have a snowball effect.
A study published in the journal Nature Neuroscience found that lying is a slippery slope: When people tell small lies, the brain becomes desensitized to the pang of guilt that dishonesty usually causes. It turns out we are pretty good at pegging liars, but that we end up talking ourselves out of it. Research published in Psychological Science found that we all have pre-set instincts for detecting liars, but they are often overridden by our conscious minds.
Research shows our accuracy of distinguishing truths from lies is just 53 percent — not much better than flipping a coin. A large meta-analysis revealed overall accuracy of distinguishing truths from lies was just 53 percent — not much better than flipping a coin, note the authors, psychologists Charles Bond, PhD, of Texas Christian University, and Bella DePaulo, PhD, of the University of California, Santa Barbara.
Say you have an underlying suspicion that your spouse is being unfaithful, or that your child may be engaging in dangerous activities behind your back. Luckily there are active steps we can take to improve our lie detection radar.
According to behavioral experts and professional interrogators, the key is to watch rather than listen. You may not be able to hear a lie but you can spot a liar by being aware of these nonverbal s. Some people, for example, will never look you in the eye.
PatrickPh. They say our eyes are the window to our soul — and when it comes to spotting a liar, studying the portal may lead you to the truth. A study of people across 58 countries found that gaze aversion was the behavior that most people associated with deception. But is there any truth to this? Science shows that liars do not avoid eye contact any more frequently than those telling the truth. The key thing to look for in eye movement is deviation from their baseline. He also notes that how fast or slow someone blinks and how that changes from their baseline when they say something you suspect to be a lie is critical to observe.
The caveat comes when there are very high stakes involved — say, cheating in a relationship or doing something in the office place that can cost you your job.
In these situations, some studies have found gaze aversion to be linked with deception. Porter adds that if someone is telling a really big lie with serious consequences, the face will definitely reveal the deception.
These tiny cracks lasting less than one-fifth of a second may leak emotions someone wants to conceal, such as anger or guilt. Experts do point out that s of emotion aren't necessarily s of guilt, but they may give you a peek into underlying emotions someone may be concealing. She stresses that while we tend to distrust people who are shifty-eyed, break eye contact or won't look you in the eye at all, there are plenty of innocent explanations for this, whether they are shy, nervous or socially awkward. There are seven human emotions, Stecker says: anger, happiness, sadness, fear, surprise, disgust and contempt.
These come into play when someone is forcing a smile.
You decide to press them on the issue by asking for clarification around the statement. Chances are, there are going to be some physical shifts that can clue you into their discomfort. Foot tapping or fidgety hands when during baseline their hands, legs and feet were benign should be noted. Of course this is dependent on the baseline — some people just have a habit of twirling their hair or touching their face.
But Strecker says to be mindful of any changes in blinking speed, swallowing, facial hand rubbing, yawning, hair twirling or rate of breathing — all actions that may hint a lie is in process. Want more tips like these? IE 11 is not supported.
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